Thursday, February 7, 2008


Oh yes, I was the one for that long line of qualms, misgivings, regrets. Fact is, I’m well acquainted with those words having them as constant companion for some years. Well, nobody told me then nor bothered to pass on some bit of wisdom off their own experiences that those were sorry unproductive negative words... along with the attitude that went with it. Well, I guess they too were wrestling with that themselves--- And if I were to venture out a guess – quite unsuccessfully. Well, I had to learn the same thing the hard way with a baggage of experiences which practically knocked-me-down, gave me sleepless nights, anxiety, stress, and deeply furrowed brows. But the nicest thing that came out of that though is ---I am now qualified to tell friends who would care to listen… to please junk that stuff!

You don’t need it, believe me. That language belongs to a person who stops trying at the first sight of difficulty or comes face to face with failure --- How absurd that is – giving up when the going gets tough – when you don’t even have the slightest inkling now whether you’ll make it or not? When you can’t even be sure what the next day will bring you? Not even fortune tellers can correctly tell you what the future will bring. Isn’t that something exciting to look forward to? Don’t you want to be surprised by it? Don’t you ever wonder how God is going to bless you? It's like the trees (You) in that poster above seen as blocking the lovely rays of golden sunshine (God's blessings). Isn’t that the challenge being posed to you at the time of struggle or strife? The challenge to make you trudge forward resolutely believing that at the end of the long dark tunnel is success and achievement waiting just for you? Hard work and perseverance never fails anyone, you know. And if perchance you might fail at one…. You could always try another and another and another. Blessings abound where hope and faith reside. But if you don’t… you’ll be forever riddled with the unhappy baggage of ‘COULD HAVE’ ‘MIGHT HAVE’ and ‘SHOULD HAVE’. Regrets always come at the end, so they say.

So why not try, give it a good try – if you fail at least you could say that I gave it my best shot. You can’t be faulted with that. And then move on to the next challenge.

"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.
The saddest summary of a life is: could have,might have, and
should have." -- Louis E. Boone


  1. Hi Ellen,
    Howz u? Well said in ur post.. and how true it is..
    i think i mentioned this in one of the comments on ur post in the past.. in my opinion, one should draw lessons from what has happened and then think about the present and the next point of action rather than lamenting about the failure..

    Hope things are OK otherwise..
    Take Care :)

  2. Thanks, Kamesh, things are fine here. In fact, it's a lovely morning today --- warm sun, greens are greener, blue skies bluer, and an occasional mild cool breeze blowing. :-D Perfect, isn't it? lol

    I'm not surprised by your comment.. it's typically how you would think -- truly Kamesh. And why I admire you, my dear friend.

    You know, 'love it whenever you find the time off your busyness to come here. That's so wonderful and appreciated. Thanks for taking time.

    Everything okay with work and your mom at home? Do extend my warm regards to her. She's a wonderfu lady having raised a wonderful son and person.

    Blessings to you both.
    All the best to you, Kamesh.

  3. Hey Ellen

    How you doing? Thanx for dropping by my blog. I been hibernating as far as posting blogs is concerned. Got plenty of things to take care of. Not that I have no time , I just didn't want to blog.

    I got some good news to share though, I will be moving back to India, my home.

    One can only succeed in his life if he keeps believing and trying. As far as I am concerned, most of things I have put my mind to have always worked. Thank God. What it has taught me is, I can accomplish anything I want, as long as I work for it and pray.


  4. Hello Phoenix,

    Hi Phoenix,

    I'm happy for you. It is wonderful to return to our home after being away for so long. Yes, I can understand how hard it is sometimes to let go of familiar people and things -- things which have comprised our comfort zones. But you are right too in saying that life must move on and moves people along with it. Yet the warm thought of coming home makes the change so much worthwhile. :-)

    By the way, I took this reply to your blog too.. just in case you miss it here. lols

    Hope you're having a good week.
    Take care and God bless you.


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