Friday, September 19, 2008


Problems, trials, difficulties, struggles, misfortunes, thorns or whatever else it is called but life surely has a good stack of them to keep us at our wit’s end. Whether they are gigantic or minute these problems can prick us where it can hurt us most -- And how we hurt! The thing is we can’t seem to get us out of there and I wonder why. Is it because being so overwhelmed by it we get dumbstruck and stuck to our shoes where we are? Or… because in our muddled up brains we can’t see anything beyond it? Or…that something got lost inside us and we don’t know how to get it back? Or…might it be that we have hang on doggedly to an idea that someone or something will come soon and pluck us out of our misery? To the latter I’ll say maybe and maybe not.

You do know that ‘life is what you make of it’, as a saying goes. So whether to welter in misery or get on the first plane out of there pronto, so to speak, is all up to you. The longer you stay in a situation where it can hurt you the harder it will hurt you – the harder it will harm you. And soon you will find yourself begin to lose the power to change. You certainly don’t want that, do you? -Because change and only change is your relief and deliverance from your perceived misery.

"Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us." -- Voltaire


  1. There was a time, when i hardly had any experience of emotional hardships but used to give such advice to my friends, thinking it was easier said thatn done.

    There came a time (recently); which put me through the gruelling emotional roller coaster ride and i realised and felt that such advice is far easier said than done. It is almost impossible to do it ...

    I now wait for a time .. . when i will get over it and again begin to give the same advice realising that it is indeed possible to do it.

    Nice post ... You write well ...

  2. hi Ellen!
    u r quite right, 'pass quickly thr' ur problem'. i have been doing these for last one year. i have tried to face all the situations, accept it and fought them till they died. i do whatever best i can do. many a times in ur long life, u just have to sail thr' ur troubles. its of no use to sit & cry.

  3. Yes, those problems, somehow they hurt like those multicolored clips. The good thing is they don't necessarily knock us out. That's how my blog came into being - in the midst of the thorns and clips of life.

  4. Hi Arbit!

    It is quite an interesting quick cruise through your blogs. Very interesting but I have to go through it again but on a much slower pace next time. :-)

    I too went through the same thing you did -- 'grueling emotional roller coaster ride' -- the last one just late last year when my husband passed away. But I finally learned to pass through those difficult times quickly, yes. It would have been easier to remain in my grief and enjoy the comfort and sympathies extended by well-meaning friends. But my daughters and I chose to 'move' quickly through it and get on with our lives. We're moving on and wisely so. Yes, it is possible. All that is needed is the willingness to do so and to look forward to the future with renewed hope courage and faith.

    Thank you for coming by my blog and for your comment and lovely compliment. Thank you. Take care now. May God bless you and your family.


  5. Hello Amit,

    "...sail thr' ur troubles. its of no use to sit & cry." - is a wonderful way to say it. :-) But I have always known you to be of such courage and strength so am not surprised that you would say that.

    Blessings to you and your family.
    Have a lovely weekend. :-)

  6. Hi dfish,

    Yes, I've had my share of those 'thorns and clips of life' too. But don't we all. The focus is on how do we deal with it. You seem to have done very well with yours. :-) Thanks for coming by; pleasure is all mine.

    May God continue to bless you with tons and tons of blessings.

  7. Hi Ellen.

    I came to know of your blog through Sensitive Jigyasa (a good friend of mine) :)

    I had read some posts on your blog and had some idea of what you just told me. Thats where I was coming from when i said that i need to come to the stage where you are ... having coped up and moved on.

    To be frank .. You are actually my inspiration now. I gained a new perspective to things around after reading some of your posts.

    Thanks !

  8. Hi shoooonya/arbit,

    How wonderful!.. Sensitive Jigyasa is also a good friend of mine. Please extend my warm regards. :-)

    Oh so you have experienced a loved one's departing too? I'm sorry. I know tho that it could take awhile or longer for some, it's true, yet definitely this lonely journey will come to its end and the dust will soon settle down.. then you'll find your way again. You'll be just fine I know. There is a time for everything under the sun, so we've been told.. but we're also reminded not to linger too long in our troubles or misery. So when I decided to 'pick myself up and move on' began showing me rainbows and moonbeams, hopes and dreams. I still have troubles (who doesn't) but I have learned to be much kinder to myself now. You will get there too, believe me -- and soon! :-)

    Hope the weekend was pleasant for you. Take care. May God bless you with peace, joy, and lots of love from family and friends.


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