Showing posts with label the learning journey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the learning journey. Show all posts

Friday, December 27, 2013

WHEN OLD MAKES GOOD ITS TIME TO LEARN WELL

 


With the sun shining warm and bright, puttering in my tiny pot garden on the patio was not a task at all particularly when a tiny cool breeze started blowing my way. I was in the middle of trimming dried-up branches in one pot when a neighbor living just across the street strode down casually to the side of the patio facing the street and happily extended an invitation to her birthday party on Sunday which she’d rather call her Thanksgiving Party. She further added that she’s so grateful to be 75 and healthy. Indeed Amen to that!

50, 60, 75 or beyond ... it is that time in life when everybody regards you derisively, condescendingly, patronizingly, sarcastically, mockingly, irreverently......‘old’. It just means one thing to them --- old.

Allow me to say something.....

Never mind the aching bones, the weak joints, the failing eyesight or hearing, the pills nestling permanently in one’s bag, and the memory lapses. All that and more is just the natural physical journey of the human body. We know and understand that. But there is something special in being old.

It’s special.......

...To have better learned to consider a fellow being as an equal and loved by the same God. To see him not only through human eyes but through the eyes of God and thus understand that he goes through the same struggles, burdens, misery or pain as everybody else. Then without further ado quickly shoot off a prayer to the heavens creating a grace-filled path leading back to that person. It’s special because you have understood well. For not many learn.

...To have better learned to act kindly and patiently towards the young whose brazen and foolhardy behaviour often get on your nerves. And instead seek to help, enlighten, uncover their potential, unobtrusively train them into the way that they should go, as designed by a good God. It’s special because you have learned to understand the young as they should be understood. For not many understand.

...To have better learned to accept life with both the good and the bad in it, to have understood that both are requisites for growth. It’s special because you have learned to move in step with the music of life’s universal dance and essentially to God’s design for your life. For not many try.

...To have better learned to be friends with the sun, moon, stars, trees, seas, rivers, oceans, and the animals of land-sea-air, all the seasons and its changes and that you have a part in its preservation and continuance. It is special because you have understood your role as a steward of God’s work. For not many will.

...To have better learned to separate the wheat from the chaff, to recognize those of true value amidst those which only serve no good thing but waste.  It is special because you have gained the ability to peel off unnecessary layers or masks which hide truth where truth could have been the better choice. For not many do.

...To have better learned that everything in life passes through heaven’s doors. Joy, sorrow, misery, success, failure, laughter, tears, and fear --- all can find its solution – hope – inspiration – comfort and consolation when it is passed through faithful prayer. It’s special because you have understood very well that nothing is or will be without GOD. For not many learn and learn well.

So there.....Old is special because old made good its time to learn and learn well. Although God isn’t finished yet but with the way it looks now the work is closer to done. And that’s a very good thing if heavenly perfection is the goal. 

So then here’s for a ‘Happy Birthday’ to anyone who may be celebrating a birthday today or in the days ahead before the year ends.  Don’t count the years in numbers but in how much and how well you have learned.



Monday, October 19, 2009

THE DIFFERENCE LIES IN THE CHOICES WE MAKE

We all get the same stuff in life. I'm referring to those things which make us happy, cry, angry, love, lose, succeed, bitter, foolish, brilliant, or just downright stupid. Because you and I are the same. You may not fancy the green bitter gourd I eat but you have your own idiosyncrasies about food like a peanut butter and mustard sandwich. I like walking boots anywhere I go and you like dark leather jackets in rain or sunny weather. I like soft soothing music to calm my hassled nerves at night while you like the loud ear-screeching sounds of an electric guitar to wake you up mornings. I guess we can put up with all that because we know that we're so much different as we are so much the same with one another.

But in things which matter in the course of trying to live a life the best we can, it would be wise to pay attention to certain things. We all aim for happiness and success. But to get there in the best possible time and in top form we must learn what or where we should put our emphasis or attention. Why? It’s because so many things could and would encroach on our territory thereby taking us off the track or derailing us from our goal. But we can do something about that.

If our emphasis is on ...

..... hard work, responsibility, determination, excellence, persistence, consistency, accountability, knowledge, self-confidence, respect, hope, faith, the willingness to learn, the ability to bounce back from a disappointment or failure, and the passion and love for doing what is right

-- we will get there no matter the road we take or challenges we face. If we put in our best effort into our goals, the universe can do no other but grant our heart's desires.

On the other hand, if we engage in ....

--- lackadaisical effort, are content with mediocrity, are lazy, can't leave our comfort zones, can't make commitments, resent authority, procrastination, evade responsibility, and would opt for the shorter easier (yet not always the smarter) way to do things

-- we won't get there, that's certain. We'll simply end up as miserable as we started - Perhaps twice as miserable. To this the universe will simply say to us -- 'Buddy, you've got a problem.'

Both kinds of activity use up the same hours, days, weeks, years and energy put into it. What would make the huge difference is on deciding which road we would choose to travel -- the road to success or the road to misery. The choice is solely ours to make.

"The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." -- Carlos Castaneda



Monday, March 17, 2008

TODAY'S MEANDERING THOUGHTS


There is something that I want to do now. Just to let the thoughts out what it thinks it wants without hindrance of any kind. Meaning –free-flow the thoughts. Like a person who's meandering down life's roadpicking up lots of forget-me-nots, not the flora and fauna song, but what we call our memories and experiences. So then let’s get this moving along.
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"Believe, when you are most unhappy,that there is something for you to do in the world. So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain." -Helen Keller

Ah, this is not one for the I-ME-MY-MINE individuals of the universe. Because this is a mind set that thinks outward to others not inward to self --- are more likely to put others’ interest or welfare first above self. Must admit it though that this rare human form is now certified endangered specie like the whale, dugong, and tiger of the animal kingdom. Did I just hear someone say ‘that’s true’? And that we live now in a claustrophobic material self-centered society and world? Really?!

"Pay no attention to what the critics say;
no statue has ever been erected to a critic."
-Jean Sibelius

Oh let’s be kind, they should be thanked for saving ‘talented’ people from a myopic vision of seeing their achievement, accomplishment, and success from the standpoint of I-Me-My. And on the other side of that spectrum, the ‘social butterflies’ or ‘pretenders’ are divested of their pretenses, posturing, and therefore revealed as to who they truly are. A genuine critic owes no allegiance to anyone or to the tyranny of money. He does what he does (maybe) because he believes in something and if that something be good, then lucky are its ‘victims’. It’s always a blessing to be told one’s mistakes and be pushed to change or improve. That is, if one can handle that.

Time is like a river You cannot touch the same water twice Because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life. –Anon.

I keep telling myself this everyday. Today is all that we humans have. Everything in our today was placed there for certain definite reasons -- But certainly for our betterment, enjoyment, and growth. Even if today is perceived to be bland, boring, uneventful, and unproductive sometimes – you can’t really say that it is truly that. Because by some Divine purpose (and I know this to be true), the blessings sent us are often wrapped up in those ordinary-dull-dreary-barren-idle things of our day. And Somebody wise up there calls us to extract those gems from within, so start digging, brother!!

"Mistakes are almost always of a sacred nature. Never try to correct them. On the contrary: rationalize them, understand them thoroughly. After that, will be possible for you to sublimate them". -- Salvador Dali

It’s like saying that we will always be making mistakes in life. Very TRUE! --Won’t argue that. But one thing is clear too – that we are essentially to toss it over in our minds a hundred times over until we see where it can best serve us. Mistakes are meant to help us change; we are not supposed to correct mistakes, says Mr. Dali. It’s US we should be correcting. Maybe… we should thank our mistakes for showing us the path to improvement --- use it to better our selves with.

"Life is not always what one wants it to be,
but to make the best of it as it is,

is the only way of being happy." -Jennie Jerome Churchill

This should be everybody’s song …’to make the best of it as it is’. So no matter what you have there on your tray of life, work with that. Who knows, you may be getting a better deal than the other guy sitting next to you. Sift through the odds and ends, maybe a miracle is hidden somewhere. There always is, you know.

"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes." -- Hugh Downs

Wear your attitude everyday. A good affirmative positive can-do attitude that will take you through the day over the humps-and-bumps, the steep mountains-and-deep ravines, the walls-and-blocks, the difficult situations and people, and god knows what else. Your attitude is you. Only You can make the difference between happy or sad. Be happy!

"A year from now you will wish you had started today."   - Karen Lamb     

Don’t ever make room for the Ifs and If Only’s. You’ll only end up as worse as or much worse than when you started. Remember ‘time waits for no one’… and today is all that you really have because as the famous line goes.. ‘Tomorrow is just a dream’; it may or may not come. So what then are you waiting for? Begin now.

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Okay, that’s about it for now. More later.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

DON'T STOP LEARNING

If there is anything which succeeds to exasperate me at any time is the utter refusal of someone to learn. I’m sorry but I just can’t understand why some people when coming up to a certain age or point in their lives would simply give up on learning. I can’t believe that some people would be content with what they already know or have learned and wouldn’t care to learn anything else new anymore. This does not refer to scholarly pursuits although that too is a very good idea. What I’m driving at is the learning or to put it this way… the gaining or acquiring of new wisdom - information - facts - understanding - insights - perception or self-knowledge as we go through life.

To my mind when God created us He created us complete but it doesn’t stop there. Complete yet not perfect. The ultimate goal set for us is to someday be with Him in our final home where everything is perfect. So then being in an imperfect state as we are now and to be worthy to enter heaven’s doors, we must go through the process of ‘refining’ -- a constant shedding of old useless layers and the growing of new ones. The sole intent of which is to transform us into the perfect creatures we were meant to be. But you know what? God didn’t plan to do that all by Himself. How do I know that? It’s putting one and one together, meaning don’t we always find ourselves up against a constant barrage of challenges in life which always draw out from us a myriad of reactions decisions perceptions? These in turn define who we are and what we can become? So seeing the potential in the midst of all that misery makes me think that surely it’s there for a reason and somebody is directing the whole show. Thus using our free will to respond to each and every situation is undoubtedly our participation to God’s plan – He being that someone directing the whole show! Thus we’re in this together – God and us.

We must do our part in our own transformation. How do we do this? We learn and learn… and learn some more. The process is something like this…. LEARN, UNLEARN, RELEARN. We learn all that life has to offer us– experience, lessons, education, instruction, mistakes, 0coaching. But whatever we find in those things which do not serve or contribute to our well-being and growth – things which only serve to hurt and harm us, we must shed or unlearn it – run it through serious thinking, discover what does not work, go back to the basics. So we start relearn things again but in a much better light and understanding than what we had before and with this new learning grow higher into knowledge maturity and wisdom. If you think that the process ends where it ends, it does not. The learning continues all through our lives with each new step taking us closer to our goal until we finally reach our destination. All of life is learning. So don't stop learning, it is a task but a joint undertaking with your God. You will come out of it fully rewarded, that's for sure. That's God's plan for you all along.