Friday, October 26, 2007


We are so focused on the destination and not so much on the journey, aren’t we? When translated into the pursuit of dreams, we aim so hard for success and for the prize at the end that anything less than that won’t make us happy. Really! For instance, two friends equally talented, educated, trained, hardworking and smart seek the same goal or success, but the first guy gets it while the second one does not – do you think that the second guy is less successful than the first one?

By every criterion set down by the world, the first one rates as big success. That’s by the world’s standard which recognizes the man who achieves what he has set out to do as the winner.

But I wouldn’t deem the second one a failure either because he did just as much as the first guy, was highly motivated, worked hard for what he wanted, had put in his best effort, spent the same sleepless nights toiling over papers, bleed his brains dry over problems and working out possible solutions, poured over books relevant to the task, and tapped a network of friends and peers picking brains where he decently could or allowed to. He was as tough fearless and dogged as the first guy. The same true mark of a winner and yet --- he still didn’t make it. Tough luck!

And so struck by his defeat he crumbles. But if somebody near him could and I wish that he would… I would tell him to give this guy a good kick in the butt! --Figure of speech, of course. But in my book, he is as much a success as the one who got away with the prize. Why?

Because I’m looking at 'effort' --- and the person who makes it happen. A person who stands his ground in the midst of battle, who wouldn’t buckle down when the going gets tough, who gives his utmost best to the task, who never gives up the fight down to the very end, and who fearlessly takes up the challenge and competition – that’s the stuff successful people are made of, win or lose. And I’ll bet that if given another chance he will be up front throwing his punches once more.

So what if he missed on some things that he should or could have done, failed to be perfect in the chase and suffered because of it. But he gave it his all --- his best shot. This should make him proud. Isn’t it that we are told to give our best shot to everything that we do in life? Well, he did just that and in my book – that is called success – regardless if he reached his goal or not.

And so does Fran Tarkenton think so who has this to say…

"Success, in my view, is the willingness to strive for something you really want. The person not reaching the top is no less a success than the one who achieved it, if they both sweated blood, sweat and tears and overcame obstacles and fears. The failure to be perfect does not mean you're not a success."


  1. Ellen dear,

    I can not tell you how very lovely it is to see you here.Loved your pictures,loved that you were generous enough to share your personal pictures. Now my friend has a face :-)

    And thanks for dropping by my blog.A mail is pending from my side to you.So sweet of you to bother yourself over me.

    Just dropped in to say 'hi'.am going to be busy till November ending.but will keep visiting every now and if i am not a regular here, do not think i have vanished.
    take care then,
    loads of love,hugs and kisses,

  2. Hi Ellen,

    Nice blog you have here.

    I am sure the spammers would not come here, with your pets guarding the posts ... they even frighten me.

    and very well said as usual... your definition of success matches mine.

    Cheers !!

  3. ||Nice and thoughtful blog.


  4. Hi Ellen,

    Just got to know about your new home.. and everybody is now leaving o3 for good.. its not the place it used to be..

    Frankly, haven't been able to read ur posts.. But i can safely say that they are as wonderful as ever.. Will return and comment on the posts after reading :)

    Take care of urself and wish u a happy and long stay here!!

  5. Hi Ellen,

    Nice to see your picture,this blog gives a pleasant feel actually better than O3 blogs although I'm unaware of the technical difficulties you had to face!!!

    I am happy to visit your new home:)

  6. Great to see your new blog Ellen. Keep on writing. Cya :)

  7. Wow! this is wonderful, guys. I'm so delighted to see good friends in here. So very delighted! :-) :-)

    -- Thanks, Joel. Yup, I intend to for a long time yet lols. Writing is a passion here in the heart. So wherever I may be, here or some other site, the writing will go on.

    -- Chunks! this is great seeing you here. :-) Am so glad that you made it to my new place, my friend.

    -- Kamesh! now don't forget to come with your messages. You know that it's always appreciated. :-)

    -- Thanks, Indrasish. There's more lined up for posting soon. :-)

    -- One person among many that I respect and admire --- Sumit! It's nice to see you after such a long time. :-) Drop by anytime you're free.

    -- I'll be waiting for that mail, Samyu. Oh no, never use the word 'bother' in our friendship. It is always my pleasure and delight to visit you in your blog. :-) And don't worry, your absence won't in any way diminish our friendship.

    Thank you, my dear friends, for lending my new home your warmth and presence. Means a lot to me. I appreciate the effort you took to come over. I hope it hasn't inconvenienced you much.

    Take care pls. I wish you all good health and pray that God continue to pour down plenty of blessings in your life, respectively. God bless you!


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