Wednesday, January 21, 2009



Maria (that’s not her real name, of course) only 5’ tall, weighs about 119 lbs, short black hair, black eyes, worry-wart, perfectionist, stubborn, outspoken, multi-talented, conservative, analytical, and reflective. Her life story is quite dotted with disappointments and unhappiness but she’s got spunk which I admire. She lives an hour away from me in another part of the city but we call each other up if meeting up isn’t possible.Ralph is married, in his early fifties, doesn’t have a regular job, gets by with special projects much to the consternation of his wife, has excellent pr with friends and colleagues but isn’t quite successful in the home and with family.

They are just two of countless other people in my social circle -- Same as with yours and too with theirs. Now why should I even mention these? I’m trying to drive home a point – an essential one.

We see zillions of people around us with distinct features and characteristics. Well, in our close circle we can only count about tens or hundreds, if you're lucky. But in the world outside there are zillions of them. Zillions! We’ve been told that no two persons are alike although they seem to be similar but still not the same. So then you, I, and they are distinctly different and separate in our own selves and persona.

I like that thought. It makes me feel very special. Don’t you too?

When you see me do the things I do, talk the way I do, think the way I do, walk the way I do ---- that’s me --- intrinsically genuinely me…Unless I put up a façade, but what for? Why pretend what I am not when being real is a lot more fun and interesting, at least to my point of view. It has nothing to do with being smug or proud or snooty liking oneself --- Although some people may take it to extremes and that’s where the problem begins. The idea of appreciating who I am and what I am makes life simpler and less stressful in a huge measure for myself and for others who move in and out of my turf or vice versa. No masks, no pretenses, no facades.

When I see myself as who I am --- the whole package of traits and flaws – and understand what makes me tick and still be comfortable with that I think am right on track with good sense. So then I can too appreciate others who may display other traits possibly quite unfamiliar to me and yet which I know do genuinely reflect their own distinct personality --who they are. I begin to learn to allow leeway for unpleasantness or idiosyncrasies of character because that too understandably is also in my own physical make-up. Understanding then takes place and then sets the correct mode in my relationships or in dealing with others.

I’m not going to dwell on the idea of changing where change should be, with reference to unpleasantness of character. Let’s leave that for another blog post.

The whole point of this exercise is to highlight how special you are as a person, an individual, a human being, creature, and character. Let nobody tell you otherwise. They have no permission to say that you are not. Neither do they have license to heap words of abuse on your character and person. Defend yourself and stand up for who you are. You are special, particularly in God’s eyes.

Oh yes, you are special, you are one and there is nobody else alive like you. They may copy you or seem to be like you but still they are not you. Get my point? Who else would heap canapés on his sandwich or walk in the park bare foot or look through a magazine back to front? Who else would dive straight into the pool in pajamas or eat dessert before and not after a meal or wear leather jackets in summer? Others may share your taste or preferences but you alone possess your own particular trademark as Mary, John, Peter, Lee, Pedro, Raj, Diwa. There is so much more of who you are that makes you quite unique and special. That was God's agenda when he created you. So like who you are and as you go along with that thought.. also do take time to see where you can improve on 'you' for an even better self.

Dr. Seuss says…..

(Wrote this some time ago. Taking this here now for a friend. Hope this works its purpose.)


  1. right but very people are able to appreciate this and see it the way u wrote.!!...

    this really made me think..somtimes i too think that i am from crowd and has nothing so great..i am sad about my height..but then..i have qualities that no one else in this world can posses.!!

    Love reading it ellen ...


  2. Hi, dear Sur!

    How lovely to see you again. Yes!! you are special -- as a person and friend with your warmth, friendliness, sincerity, and oh so genuine from head to toe! lols :-))

    Have gone to your blog site and also left message there. Let's get in touch and take up the friendship again where we left off. See yah around! :-)

    Blessings to you and your family.

  3. Ellen,

    Sorry for having been absent for such a long time. I fully agree with you that we can always give something - KINDNESS. Also each of us has an impact on other. Will read all posts once again.

    Take care

  4. Hi NG! This is such a pleasant surprise and a most welcome one. Happy to see you. Yes, it's been a long while but life is just like that taking us to other roads or destinations. I can understand that; it happens to everyone. :-) By the way, I went to your o3 blog and also left message there. That was a good post. Take care and God bless!

  5. Hello Amit.

    Hope you're having a lovely weekend with your family. I know how you love them so much. That makes you so special cos such devotion to family is quite rare in our modern times wherein the family unit has become second or even last on one's list of priorities. See what this rat race does to people?! :-)

    My best regards to you and everyone in your home. God bless!


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