Thursday, January 3, 2008

WHAT LIFE TAUGHT ME THIS TIME (Lesson 1)

I shall not go over the nitty-ditty details of the recent events from the time he was rushed to the hospital and down to the internment. No. Those should now be kept in the vault of memories only to be taken out in private moments sometime in the present or somewhere in the future. So then I’m locking the vault now and putting aside the key. Let me tell you something else but not apart from the experience I have been through. Fact is, these things grew out from it - rather were formed by it.

Remember the many times I have said in the blogs that life always has a lesson or lessons stacked up for us to learn as we travel our respective life journeys? Oh yes, the lessons are there indeed… but then we must try to find out what they are.

Allow me then to share with you these lessons, in random order (these may take several posts), which life has heaped upon me and my children’s small frail shoulders just recently. Some or most of it you may have heard before but you know what, it’s quite different when these things happen to you in a strong dramatic way like it did to me. It impacts you much harder than when you simply hear bout it or see it in other people’s lives. Seeing it and living it are apparently and hugely not the same.
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LESSON 1 - FAMILIAL LOVE IS THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL

Tell me who stays through the long endless stressful days and sleepless nights when a family member is seriously sick? Who bears the brunt of inconvenience, discomfort, futility, distress, disappointment, fear, anxiety, discouragement, and purse disasters? And yet fiercely holds on to a thin thread of hope regardless? Who loves unconditionally despite and through the hurt and pain? Who pretends to be strong when in truth strength is steadily draining away? Who bombards the heavens with ardent pleas for miracles? Who puts on a brave smile despite the crash of emotions in the heart and tears wanting to gush out of the floodgates of one’s eyes?

The FAMILY! --Father, mother, son, daughter, sister, brother… And maybe too your extended family, as some homes include that. I praise and thank God for the blessings of my family!

Nobody can love you like your family does. Nobody can bear up with your unlovable ways and flaws and traits. Nobody can forgive you your faults easily. Nobody can continue believing in you despite the visible signs pointing to your destruction. Nobody can see you better, your good and bad, and still stubbornly make excuses for your noticeable imperfections. Nobody will stand by you through thick and thin. Nobody prays for you harder and hardest. Nobody but nobody will love you for who you are and not for what they think you should be.

So now if you have been treating your family as second class citizens of your life and home… or setting them down on the sidelines on your list of priorities… or taking them for granted because you think they will always be there for you… or have always been inconsiderate of their feelings… or ordered them around like servants and slaves… or shout at them for disrupting your work… or demand that they put your interest and wishes first above the rest… or keep them awake nights waiting for you and you come home drunk… or badgered them with your repeated nagging on nonsensical things… or set very high standards for them to keep up with while you yourself break some rules… or be so unreasonably impatient and annoyed by their imperfections and mistakes… or make no effort to talk with them or ask about their day… and many more.

Then you are up to losing the most precious people in the world in your life one sad day. Maybe not outright because sometimes the hurt and pain can pile up slowly unnoticed bit by bit through the years until it becomes a mountain of bitterness and resentment which will finally at some point break that person and shatter the home. This can happen to the best of families, to the best of people wherever in the world.

Are you going to wait for that to happen to your family? --To you?

Continued


9 comments:

  1. yeah...Ellen!
    quite true... that family is the most important...
    i realized many time in my life span of 32 years...
    for me, family is the top most priority...
    you have touched the very important topic..
    go on... Ellen!

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  2. Hi Amit,

    I knew that this topic would be right up your alley of priorities.... as I know you to be such a devoted family man. :-) Yup, there're more posts coming after this. Thanks for dropping by. Take care.

    God bless you and your family.

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  3. Hey Ellen ,

    I think the order of blessedness is something like this :

    1. Having a Family
    2. Realizing the value of Family &
    3. Appreciating each member of your family

    Take care

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  4. Bravo, Amita!

    It is such pleasure and honor to meet someone who acknowledges this and treasures it in the home. May God send out blessings upon you and the your family. May your home be filled with joy peace harmony laughter abundance and love.

    Take care always.

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  5. Hi LP,

    I knew you'd say that :-D.. being a devoted family man yourself. Thanks for dropping by, it is nice to see you here. Take care and God bless.

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  6. Hey Ellen,
    Awesome post as usual! And you hit it right on the head. I love my family and they are second only to God!
    I value them more than words could EVER say!

    I know that God will use you mightily in 2008!

    Peace & Love, Regina

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  7. Hey Ellen,

    Wonderfully written & truly inspiring post as usual. I remember once you had commented on my post and I told my mom, look she understood exactly as you do...Ah! Family, well I have recently started my life with my husband and a new family.....and guess what? You once again inspired me for 'Happiness'.

    Thanks & Regards,

    Sensitive:-)

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  8. Hi Sensitive,

    Wow! it would be lovely to meet your mom. I'm sure we have lots to share in common. :-)

    Congratulations! on your marriage and new family. That's wonderful. You have my warmest wish and prayer for tons of blessings in your new life.

    You know, I'm so glad to see you here. Friends like you light up my place simply with your presence.

    Take care pls okay?
    Know that you are thought of from miles away. :-)

    God bless you and your family.
    Ellen

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