Friday, February 4, 2011


Was reading this book sometime back (Insignificant one, by a not yet famous writer who could be one day. Who can tell.) and one line struck me, spoken by one female character 'I love you because you complete me.' Nice huh? Aww so romantic..

But I don't buy that. What if something happened and the relationship went pfft and the fella went off to Alaska or to the moon or ran off with another girl... then what does that make of you? That makes you incomplete? Meaning you can no longer function as a normal human being without him? That you become less than whole because a part of you is with the other? Oh okay, maybe I'm taking that quite literally but kidding aside am just stressing a point. Because I think that's not a good line to use.. even if it were simply meant to tickle a lovestruck heart, yours or the other's.

Have you ever thought about this... that You can't let or allow anyone to define you or your life for whatever reason, not even for love. Dependence on another is okay to a certain extent maybe but certainly not when it takes away a part of you or even just a teeny weeny bit of you, or so you romantically think.

Complete may not be the right word here. Because complete may indeed fill up a void but it's not necessarily by or with love. Rather try using the word complement. Complement does not take away; rather it adds itself to another in such a loving understanding magnanimous manner, capacity and intent.

Someone said this, to quote.....

"Never say that someone completes you. We have to feel whole even when we are by ourselves, for needing a person is not love but dependency. Wanting a person to become a part of your life is the best reason for having them. So rather than search for the someone who will complete you, wait for the person that will complement your completeness." Unquote.


  1. Don "complemented my completeness"...I still miss the complement!

  2. Theanne, such a wonderful blessing -- Don. I can understand missing the complement. :-) God bless you, my friend.

  3. Agree with you. "Complement your completeness...' I like that. 'Complete' would just be sweet-talk and nothing else.

  4. So true, RGB, so true! Complete sounds great to the ears but it doesn't really matter where it should matter most. Great to see you; thanks for taking time to come over. Left message in your blog too re: kids. Nice one.

  5. Amazing!!thats a lovely post Ellen...thanks for sharing!!

  6. Hi Sana! lovely to seeing you here. How are you? By the way, have you put up one of your art work in your blog? Let me know won't you pls cos I'd love to see it. :-) Bless you!


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