Monday, January 5, 2015

RESOLUTIONS ANYONE??

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Friends keep asking me about my New Year's resolutions. I just give them a smile because honestly I don't do end-of-year-resolutions. Not that I don't believe in them but different folks, different strokes. Same story with my friend. She thinks resolutions are simply empty promises to self. And we do know about promises, don't we? That it's just meant to be broken. Maybe some of us are good at it but as far as I gather for some years now nobody has come out honest and clean. Somewhere there down the road the resolve goes stale.
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Maybe it's through no fault of anyone or anything.  I would rather think that it's the self which does more influence on making or breaking personal resolves. One may start up strong but further down the line ends up weak or shattered. There's always a story behind the reason why but don't let anyone say that you chalked up excuses to cover up for your failure. Own up to failure bravely managing with a sheepish grin if you can. Besides they never really expected you to follow through with it anyhow. Nobody believes in resolutions these days. It's just media hype.
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But...........
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How about we take on another approach to 'making resolutions'?  Be more real and straightforward about it. One that's manageable, within our control, and I think much more closest to our heart.
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DO THE THINGS THAT COUNT.

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Do the things which matter to you. Do those things which make you happy  (not those things which are influenced or dictated or imposed upon you by your peers)..... stuff which make you feel pleased with yourself  (boosting creativity so much more)..... build self-confidence  (you must be good at something - everybody is)..... further bond with your family with quality time  (work is just work; don't let it get in the way of creating wonderful moments with them)..... tasks which make you far better at your skills or talent (you're better at it but what's stopping you from being the best)..... engage in activities which enhance your social skills further  (we all stand connected)..... and many more things which you simply love doing.
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It's not a promise you make to yourself;  you do it because you love doing it. You cook fantastic dishes at home and even explore new recipes. You clean the car top to bottom and this time regularly because you love your car so much (and sometimes even more than you love your wife... ooops! Just kidding!) You buy ten burgers and ten bottles of water and then give it away to every street person you see (because you love the giving far more than the receiving end of it). You write letters to your congressmen or senators telling them what's wrong with your country (because you care what happens to your district or country -- and it looks like they don't).
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There's more that you do and can do. And the only thing that you should be careful about is........ choosing the right things. Things that genuinely matter are things that genuinely count.
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Resolutions, anyone?  Naahh.. I don't think so this time. I have this suspicion that you are just too busy doing the great wonderful things you love to even bother about resolutions. (Me, too.)
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Shine on, friends! This is your year. Blessings are there waiting for everyone ....  2015!!!  GOD BLESS YOU!



4 comments:

  1. Hi Elen,
    Thanks for visiting my blog after so long. Wish you and your family a great 2015. Indra.

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    1. Hi Indra,

      Life truly has kept us busy with lots of stuff I must say. But out of touch doesn't necessarily have to mean out of mind.

      Take care now. May the new year bring in much blessings upon you and your family.

      Happy New Year!

      Ellen

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  2. Hello Ellen,

    Wonderful post. This is something to be really thought about.

    As usual I have made some resolutions like reading more books, living frugally, eating healthy food and going for long walks, I am not sure I will be able to keep them but just the same I made these resolutions. Let me see what happens. Once in three months I will check to see whether I am able keep them.

    Happy new year to you and your family.

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    1. I have stopped looking at resolutions as resolutions. The word no longer carries a positive ring to it as it just gets more and more associated with broken promises year after year after year. Thanks to the media who play up negativity without a second thought.

      So a new resolve rose from that.... and that is to do what things I love... those which redound to benefit my well-being and my relationships with the world outside..Loving what you do leads you to about a 90% success rate. With added fun derived from it, too.... and spared of having to make empty promises.

      Yeah, I will be monitoring this new thought and see how things would end up. :-) Just like what you have said.... let's see what happens.

      A Happy and Blessed New Year, too... to you and your family.

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